Comments on: The Untold Truth About What Causes All of Our Emotional Pain… (And What YOU Can Do About It!)

By: "Yo Pal" Hal Elrod

"Yo Pal" Hal Elrod — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 04:53:49 +0000

Joe,

LOL! You crack me up! I just read your comment to Ursula and Sophie, and they BOTH cracked up!! :^D

Send me your mailing address and I'll send you a new CCI wristband...

Yo' Pal For Life,

Hal

By: Joeutley

Joeutley — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 04:14:17 +0000

all of my emotional pain, fear, and regret came from losing my can't change it bracelet

By: "Yo Pal" Hal Elrod

"Yo Pal" Hal Elrod — Tue, 28 Sep 2010 21:07:04 +0000

Tatyana, you're welcome! Thank you for sharing your additional insights. What can I say? I just love YOU!!! :^)

Yo' Pal,

Hal

By: Tatyanavroman

Tatyanavroman — Tue, 28 Sep 2010 19:55:32 +0000

Thank you, Hal! Sometimes my pain comes from the fact that I think I can actually change something when in reality I should just except that I can't and move on to the things that I can change.
I do my best to remember to practice the “Can't change it” philosophy and share it with the world.

By: "Yo Pal" Hal Elrod

"Yo Pal" Hal Elrod — Tue, 28 Sep 2010 19:31:53 +0000

You're welcome, Katie. Thank YOU for your thoughtful comment! :^)

Always with love & gratitude,

"Yo Pal" Hal

By: katie

katie — Tue, 28 Sep 2010 18:52:16 +0000

I still talk about “can't change it” to people all the time, whether it be about traffic or a breakup or whatever! What a great way to live your life. Thanks for sharing, Hal!

By: "Yo Pal" Hal Elrod

"Yo Pal" Hal Elrod — Tue, 28 Sep 2010 16:10:23 +0000

Thanks Joel!

I really appreciate you sharing your own experience with us, as well as additional "added-value" insights. You rock!

With sincere gratitude,

"Yo Pal" Hal Elrod

By: Joel D Canfield

Joel D Canfield — Tue, 28 Sep 2010 10:54:58 +0000

Powerful truth to that; even more, I can look back at every relationship I've damaged by trying to change others instead of seeing who and what they were, without expectations. I wanted them to be what I wanted them to be.

In my work, things go wrong; someone doesn't deliver, or stuff just falls apart. My reaction used to be to look frantically for a way to undo the damage, a way BACKWARDS. Now, my default reaction is to say "it is what it is; what will it take to move FORWARD?" It is amazing, even knowing the psychology behind it, to see how people step up when they accept that you're truly not looking for a scapegoat or even to place legitimate blame, but, instead, looking for a solution, a way forward.

I wasted a lotta years stuck in denial, refusing to accept what was. Thing is, until you accept it, you have zero chance of doing anything about it. Until you *see* the brick wall, you can't go around it.

By: "Yo Pal" Hal Elrod

"Yo Pal" Hal Elrod — Tue, 28 Sep 2010 05:53:19 +0000

Thanks Justin!

Sincerely,

"Yo Pal" Hal Elrod

By: "Yo Pal" Hal Elrod

"Yo Pal" Hal Elrod — Tue, 28 Sep 2010 05:52:58 +0000

Thanks buddy!

I don't have a trip to Santa Cruz planned, but I would imagine when University of California Santa Cruz books me to speak! :^) Know anybody at the University??

With sincere gratitude,

"Yo Pal" Hal Elrod